Thursday April 14, 2005
Feeling Left Out
I’ve come to the conclusion that, unless someone new comes along, I’m probably not going to hang out with anyone from my office. The marketing people have decided from the beginning that I don’t exist, and I’m fine with that, because they do that to everyone it seems. But within the last few months, the two girls in my section have become closer to the point of pretty much excluding me.
So it seems not much has changed since I first started this job. I still eat lunch alone, which I am mostly fine with, but it would just be nice to be invited along when my two coworkers go to lunch together. What percentage of time do you eat lunch alone during the work week? How often do coworkers eat with you?
It just seems like I'm getting more shut-out from my two coworkers--they sit there emailing each other all day and I'm excluded. Maybe it's just because I can't relate to the topics they discuss most often--they both live with their significant others and one recently got married while the other is engaged and planning her wedding. But maybe they just don't like me and think I'm weird. Or both.
I may never know. I haven't decided if I care yet.
Posted at 3:36 PM |
Yea, I know. But I’m not DYING to eat lunch at 2pm instead of 11:30, and besides, I don’t necessarily want to eat with them—I just don’t want them to be deliberately excluding me.
Hehe that’s one of the reasons I haven’t decided if it bothers me—I’d starve to death if I consistently ate that late in the afternoon.
2 | Posted by: Jennifer
on April 14, 2005 @ 5:01 PM
You’re lucky! The people I used to work with wouldn’t leave me alone. I could have my mouth full and my nose in a book, and they’d STILL want to have a conversation. Of course, that was the weirdos at WM ;)
3 | Posted by: AGK on April 15, 2005 @ 7:36 AMI now get along with the other people I work with, but that still doesn’t mean I get invited to lunch with them. I think in the last YEAR, I’ve had lunch with them ONCE.
I usually have lunch on my own at my desk.
My guess is they’re not purposely excluding you - they just don’t go out of their way to INclude you. Either out of laziness - or just out of self-centeredness.
4 | Posted by: Jennifer on April 18, 2005 @ 6:04 PMI’m typing this while my 2 coworkers & boss went out to lunch. I am forced to take lunch at 12 and my other coworker at 1. Apparently, yesterday afternoon they decided to plan going to lunch today. They emailed each other, of course did not include me. When I came back from lunch today, my coworker (desk next to mine) said they are going out. I think it’s a crappy thing to do to exclude people like that, especially if their work area is right next to yours.
I try not to care, I”ll try to resolve that these people are not my friends and apparently, don’t think of me that way. The only time we eat lunch is if there is a company outing - 2x per year!How long have you been at this job?
I’ve been here 4 years and I don’t think it’s going to change. Also, I’m the youngest person working here. Is there an age difference between you and your coworkers?
